In two short weeks, I will be celebrating my 10 year wedding anniversary to the love of my life. I have been with Les most of my adult life – literally. We met when I was 17 and he was 19. We were two young kids working summer jobs at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel, and we were pretty much together from that first week in the summer of 1996. We have been together 16 years, and there is truly no one I would rather have as my partner than him. We have been through so much in 16 years.
I wish I had started this blog years ago, before it was hip and trendy to have a blog, to share and record all of these amazing memories and experiences. I have kept a journal off and on, and Les has kept a journal at times as well. I plan to go back to many of the experiences and memories in those journals and re-visit them here . My memory is not as good as it should be, and if I don’t get my stories and reflections down now, I worry that they will be lost over time. The things I have been through, and the experiences Les and I have been through in our relationship, are not necessarily unique or extraordinary. They are things most people can relate to personally or know someone else who has gone through something similar. In just the last 10 years we have started careers, moved away to a new state and back home again, survived cancer, bought our first home, struggled through infertility, had three kids, and tried to maintain our marriage, family, friendships, and overall work and life balance.
Today we feel blessed to be healthy and happy. We have everything we could ever want, including three remarkable miracle babies. I am not saying things are perfect, because nobody’s life is, including mine. I do know better than to complain too much though, especially when I have the gifts that I do have. I am a pretty honest and open person, and I plan to share the good and the bad here, in the most candid way I can. My marriage is strong, but it is not strong without hard work, compromise, and commitment. My children are amazing, but not because I am some super parent or because they are any more “special” than anyone else’s kids. They are amazing because they are mine, and of course I think they are awesome. Parenting is full of some hard stuff though! I had a heck of a time adjusting to parenthood with my first child Isabella – struggled to get pregnant, rough delivery, miserable first two months as a mom with healing, nursing, and probably some postpartum depression. My second child, Jacob, brought his own set of challenges – more infertility struggles, a better delivery and postpartum experience, hypotonia, developmental delays, and a whole host of worries and stress that continue to humble me and scare the crap out of me on a regular basis (lots more to come on all that). My third child, Noah, was the most wonderful surprise in the world – totally unexpected, yet so welcome. I am glad to say that this has been my most “typical” parenting experience, although nothing is easy or typical when you have three children under the age of four in your house.
What a crazy and wonderful life! I will take the crazy, hectic, challenging stuff about this life any day if it comes with a side of wonderful. So much of what is wonderful is having my loving, smart, funny, interesting, caring, and adorable husband by my side. Here’s to many more years of marriage and adventure!